Per my usual, it’s the end of the month which means it’s time for the monthly wellness roundup post. If you’re not familiar, every Wednesday of each month I write a wellness/wellbeing post that’s centered around self-development and motivation. I also focus on a specific topic for the month. Last month’s topic was Self-Love and for this month my topic was centered around Clarity I thought it would be a great idea to do a round up post at the end of the month which entails me providing the highlights from the topics I wrote about each week for that particular month. Consider it a one stop shop if you will, for those who may have missed a Wednesday post, or if you need a refresher or a boost to help you get through.
For the month of July’s topic I provided I talked about how clarity is a sign of growth and prevents us from making rash decisions. I also shared that clarity doesn’t always produce answers but gaining clarity can help us with making difficult decisions, weighing the pros and cons, and how it can be a great first step when you feel like your hands are tied.
IDEAS YOU CAN USE TO GAIN CLARITY
I think clarity can be difficult to attain because we usually have to go through a series of steps before we get to the answer or mindset that we are trying to achieve. And it’s not necessarily steps per se, I just mean that clarity is not usually attained overnight or instantaneously. Like most things in life I know this looks different for everyone. Using myself as an example, I need alone time to figure things out in my life, occasionally I will reach out to a friend or anyone I really trust with advice to help make things clear for me, but most of the times feedback from others can cause unnecessary noise which unfortunately affects my decision making and my headspace.
WHAT’S EASIER easiest does not alway equal best but in some situations it might be. For example, if you have to make a choice between working from home and going into the office, and your boss promises an extra bonus at the end of the year for those who choose to work in the office. The easier option for some might be to come in the office, especially if they need the extra money for any reason.
CONSIDER THE HARD DECISIONS sometimes our clarity comes from making really tough decisions. We can’t always please everyone and sometimes that someone is us. Make the tough decision because in some cases, the benefits of that decision will come too fruition in the long run.
I feel like clarity is something that we don’t really discuss or possibly think about often. Unless we are having a difficult time making a decision or if we are in a relationship that’s slowly starting to fall apart, as humans we don’t talk about it until it’s needed. I’m wondering if clarity is something that can (or should) but practiced? And by that I mean should we work it the way we go to the gym and workout our muscles. Clarity itself is not something that we can flex in that way but I think there are methods that help us gain clarity that we can consistently practice to help our process with clarity a bit easier. Some examples would be paying attention to signs in relationships that’s falling apart, things that make you feel good, the benefits of a situation, etc. In other words, taking an assessment or inventory ahead of time but I digress, this blog isn’t about the process we can use to gain clarity it’s about why I think we need clarity.
We Need Clarity Because; it might alleviate some stress sometimes clarity entails weighing the pros and cons and thinking about the benefits. Having a clear outline of what needs to be done will likely lift some of the stress that comes with coming to said conclusion.
We Need Clarity Because; it shows that we care about ourselves and others this is the best example for any relationship that’s not working. If you give yourself the space to think about the benefits, pros and cons, your reason behind the decision, etc. This shows that you want the best for yourself and the other person. Without thought to gain clarity, you can easily find yourself in a relationship that’s constantly off and on. When your decision is based on a structured thought process that helps clear your mind; you think about what’s best for you and what’s best for the other person. Clarity creates the space for us to consider long term events and alleviates the possibility of being selfish which is generally based on what we’re feeling at the moment.
WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT CLARITY
he title came to me randomly and I really like the idea behind it but I really don’t know “what we should know about clarity” but I trust something good will come to me while I type this. I think if we think hard enough, clarity there are a lot of things we can probably come up with that we should know about clarity. But under the context in which we use clarity, the following are some ideas I came up with that I think we should keep in mind.
CLARITY IS A CONSTANT which means we will always need it and some point during our lives but Im sure you already know this. I think that in every Wednesday post this month I’ve said something about how we need clarity to help us with challenging decisions. There will likely never be a time in our lives when we won’t need to make a decision in the midst of chaos. Clarity will help us with that. Last week I talked about how clarity is a sign of maturity. I still stand by this because if you lack self-awareness you will probably make a lot of rash decisions.
CLARITY DOESN’T ALWAYS BRING FORTH AN ANSWER sometimes it helps guide you meaning, we don’t always rely on clarity when we need to make a decision. Sometimes we use it to help with finding some direction in our lives. I’ll share my experience with this. I can’t ever recall a time in my life when I don’t contemplate where I want to be and what I want to do with my life. This is usually a process that can be mind and time consuming. Writing these thoughts and Ideas down is a form of clarity and that list can act as a guide because it can potentially create some direction for the steps you need to take to get to where you want to be.
I’m going to end this blog by asking you all to share with me some topic ideas for the month of August. I enjoy writing and reading the content I produce but I also want to be sure that I everything I share is what you want to read and that you gain some benefit from everything I share.
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